drama queer

The Craig-o-sphere erupted with queer infighting this weekend. Starting Saturday, post-Faggity Ass Friday my Facebook was peppered with comments after a post from Craigslist's Missed Connections.

It all started with an anonymous posting kinda dissing the FAF, kinda making it sound like the village is better... (I might be wrong, i find queer ramblings confusing.) Here's a sample:

On the dance floor, one could not help but contemplate the ridiculous nature of the venue and those who frequent it. The V-Neck wearing, black rimmed glasses donning, body dysmorphic disordered, queers bumped and grind feigning their superiority.

Among the poster's crits against the FAF were:

• lack of wheelchair access (The Playhouse venue IS non-accessible, steps everywhere)

• crowdedness and sweatiness of venue (it's true but that's kinda what you sign up for when you hit up a FAF) and;

• “feigned superiority” of attendees (hmm. No comment. Plus I think most humans have incredibly low self-esteem)

And then a shit storm brew. Man, it really is autumn and we queers be BORED. Bored enough to follow this online soap opera (guilty!)

[FAFs] were started for a niche group as an antidote to the Village bars where they didn't feel welcome. Students and recent grads with too much money in their pockets, who wanted a co-ed dance venue that wouldn't throw them out for fucking in the bathrooms or holding hands in the corner table. If that isn't your scene, then throw your own party.

The best part was this little gem of constructive crit on the queer scene in the city (drama queers take note)

I'd like to see a dance party that didn't start at midnight on a Thursday (ie: Mystique and Il Motore), a sex-ed fundraiser that my kid brother could attend (ie: without the word 'cum' on every ad and banner), without Meow Mix's steep $10 ticket price. If radical queer events want to expand beyond their niche, they should take a lesson from Vancouver's BENT, which has day care for parents and wheel chair/stroller access. Or, they could translate their posters. Not everyone speaks English here.

I think, well,  I think ALL sides have vitriol and all make valid points. Firstly, the FAF parties are not completely inclusive. I've heard a bunch of people say they don't fit in there because of X reason (body issues, ability issues, age issues, etc). Second, if this turned into a shitstorm, then OBVS the poster touched on a touchy subject: could there be some truth to their rant? It sounds like the poster really wants to fit in, or at least have a fucking good FAF-ing time. But the passive-aggressive nature of the rant kinda puts sticks in that wheel. Point is, there needs to be more queer venues, more queer crowds and more parties. What the FAF is wrong with that?

 Now. When do we stop talking and start fucking? Let Lindsay Lohan show us the light!